What Is Your Label?
What is your label? What label do you take on for yourself? Are you enough? (By the way, you ARE enough! But do you label yourself as such?) I have a dear person in my circle of love that consistently labels herself in the negative without a second thought. “Why," I queried, “do you label yourself so?”
She was kind enough to share that she was bullied in elementary school. She was told that she was the “ugliest person ever” and not worth “anything”. The labels where slapped on her and she kept them there without protest. They stuck. They stayed just where these bullies put them. We are always slapped with labels by others. BUT some chose to peel them off immediately and put them in the garbage where they belong. Others tend to glue labels over the unwanted ones. Still there but hidden under the positive ones that have been slapped over. But sometimes we choose to let them stick to us and then we chose to live up to those words that where thrust upon us.
Another circle of love person was labeled as “always happy” and so she has lived up to that label while pushing down any feeling that doesn’t support that label, even if those feelings of negative are justified.
Her label is a positive label but not when it dictates her actions and the actions are not appropriate for the situation.
So, gals, the bottom line is like this. Remember a time in your life that you lost weight and were looking good? The compliments spurned you on to continuing weight loss. Or you started dressing better and people noticed you so you became a clothes shopper. Or someone complimented you on your nails and that day forth you never let your nails go without paint?!
The labels that we keep spurn us on to be that person. Take a moment and look at your labels. Are they TRUE? Are they thrust upon you? Are they positive or negative? Take a moment (YES I really want you to do this!) to look in the mirror and visualize those bumper stickers that are pasted all over your body. Read each sticker. What do they say? Then physically peel off those (yes, I know they aren’t really there) that don’t suit your real self and throw them in the garbage. Then look in the mirror and see what remains. Does it say:
-Good daughter -Low maintenance
-Hard worker - Forgiving
-Kind neighbor -Forgetful in a cute way
-Always trying---will do it anyway! -Good listener
-Helpful companion -Own style
-beautiful in own way -Good mother
Write these down in a journal. Look at them daily! Here is a secret to life. Ready? People believe what you project to them.
Label yourself and then live up to it. I am not a writer. But I always fancied myself as one. Now I have a blog with followers from all over the world and write for a new online magazine. I am not great. I have a lot to learn. But guess what. I am doing it. I gave myself a label and spoke and lived as if that label was true. And now it is stuck to me.
Go and label yourself.
She was kind enough to share that she was bullied in elementary school. She was told that she was the “ugliest person ever” and not worth “anything”. The labels where slapped on her and she kept them there without protest. They stuck. They stayed just where these bullies put them. We are always slapped with labels by others. BUT some chose to peel them off immediately and put them in the garbage where they belong. Others tend to glue labels over the unwanted ones. Still there but hidden under the positive ones that have been slapped over. But sometimes we choose to let them stick to us and then we chose to live up to those words that where thrust upon us.
Another circle of love person was labeled as “always happy” and so she has lived up to that label while pushing down any feeling that doesn’t support that label, even if those feelings of negative are justified.
Her label is a positive label but not when it dictates her actions and the actions are not appropriate for the situation.
So, gals, the bottom line is like this. Remember a time in your life that you lost weight and were looking good? The compliments spurned you on to continuing weight loss. Or you started dressing better and people noticed you so you became a clothes shopper. Or someone complimented you on your nails and that day forth you never let your nails go without paint?!
The labels that we keep spurn us on to be that person. Take a moment and look at your labels. Are they TRUE? Are they thrust upon you? Are they positive or negative? Take a moment (YES I really want you to do this!) to look in the mirror and visualize those bumper stickers that are pasted all over your body. Read each sticker. What do they say? Then physically peel off those (yes, I know they aren’t really there) that don’t suit your real self and throw them in the garbage. Then look in the mirror and see what remains. Does it say:
-Good daughter -Low maintenance
-Hard worker - Forgiving
-Kind neighbor -Forgetful in a cute way
-Always trying---will do it anyway! -Good listener
-Helpful companion -Own style
-beautiful in own way -Good mother
Write these down in a journal. Look at them daily! Here is a secret to life. Ready? People believe what you project to them.
Label yourself and then live up to it. I am not a writer. But I always fancied myself as one. Now I have a blog with followers from all over the world and write for a new online magazine. I am not great. I have a lot to learn. But guess what. I am doing it. I gave myself a label and spoke and lived as if that label was true. And now it is stuck to me.
Go and label yourself.
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