Bully To You...
One of my wee ones have been bullied in school. It is not new to her as it seems it has happened to come her way a few times in life. I have looked hard and long at this problem and have decided, after many hours of contemplation, that it is a compounded answer.
She was definitely bullied in fifth grade. She was a "younger" fiver. She has had the benefit or curse of being born just "this side" of starting school. Her cousin who is a mere 2 months younger, is in the lower grade. So as a fifth grader she was a bit on the "younger" side and saddled up to the "strong" girls in her class. Unfortunately, all 3 were going through some tough things at home and coping by being "powerful" and well let us just get to the bottom line, mean as a dog, at school. K, let us just say it....they were witches with .........you get my meaning. But what I have found in my littlie is this: she appears confident, she is super dupery cute, and she takes after Prince and is really kind to everyone. She has a way of inviting all into her circle of love. The wounded tend to cuddle up to her for comfort and then turn their nasty fangs on her when they feel threatened. This littlie of mine never gossips, tries to see the good in all, and really wants to bring comfort to those who need it. But she surrounds herself with those who don't know who they are and that is where her troubles begin......
The latest saga is now she has a particular girl who , and if you see her Face book, you know she is headed down the wrong path...............mothers please please please check your children's electronics over and over again...be a detective.........this girl posted that "Sorry god, I am going to Las Vegas and f____ing sinning". (Mother of hers, where are you?) So this gal that has decided that she has to have power. You see she was (in the words of others NOT mine) "a fat girl that was bullied and now she is skinny and doing it to others". Has decided to attack the reputation of my littlie. Not just "her hair sucks...her make up is crappy" no it is "she is grinding on boys..she swears all the time...she is a Salt Lake City Utah." (take the first letters that are capitalized. Smile.) Real things. Mean things. Things that can really make long lasting impact on a young girls life.
This is why it is important to know who we are and to teach our daughters/nieces/neighbors. Life has a way of kicking us when we are down. But it also has a way of looking sweeter once we get back up on our feet. My littlie may have to leave school. The attacks she has suffered is diminishing not only her confidence but it hurting her spirit. But I think if she does leave school, there is a new exciting life that is even better awaiting her.
I know this post is a little disconnected and doesn't flow. But it doesn't change the message....we get kicked down but oh how sweet it is once we stand up again.
go and do.
She was definitely bullied in fifth grade. She was a "younger" fiver. She has had the benefit or curse of being born just "this side" of starting school. Her cousin who is a mere 2 months younger, is in the lower grade. So as a fifth grader she was a bit on the "younger" side and saddled up to the "strong" girls in her class. Unfortunately, all 3 were going through some tough things at home and coping by being "powerful" and well let us just get to the bottom line, mean as a dog, at school. K, let us just say it....they were witches with .........you get my meaning. But what I have found in my littlie is this: she appears confident, she is super dupery cute, and she takes after Prince and is really kind to everyone. She has a way of inviting all into her circle of love. The wounded tend to cuddle up to her for comfort and then turn their nasty fangs on her when they feel threatened. This littlie of mine never gossips, tries to see the good in all, and really wants to bring comfort to those who need it. But she surrounds herself with those who don't know who they are and that is where her troubles begin......
The latest saga is now she has a particular girl who , and if you see her Face book, you know she is headed down the wrong path...............mothers please please please check your children's electronics over and over again...be a detective.........this girl posted that "Sorry god, I am going to Las Vegas and f____ing sinning". (Mother of hers, where are you?) So this gal that has decided that she has to have power. You see she was (in the words of others NOT mine) "a fat girl that was bullied and now she is skinny and doing it to others". Has decided to attack the reputation of my littlie. Not just "her hair sucks...her make up is crappy" no it is "she is grinding on boys..she swears all the time...she is a Salt Lake City Utah." (take the first letters that are capitalized. Smile.) Real things. Mean things. Things that can really make long lasting impact on a young girls life.
This is why it is important to know who we are and to teach our daughters/nieces/neighbors. Life has a way of kicking us when we are down. But it also has a way of looking sweeter once we get back up on our feet. My littlie may have to leave school. The attacks she has suffered is diminishing not only her confidence but it hurting her spirit. But I think if she does leave school, there is a new exciting life that is even better awaiting her.
I know this post is a little disconnected and doesn't flow. But it doesn't change the message....we get kicked down but oh how sweet it is once we stand up again.
go and do.
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